Wednesday, 29 October 2014

Bump Date: 22 Weeks

A lot of things don't really change week to week so I thought I would switch up the format to make it a bit more interesting!
  • Next midwife appointment is November 20
  • The midwife finally called on Tuesday with the results of our anatomy scans (my appointment was Thursday so they only saved me a couple days of stress).  Baby looks great with no apparent abnormalities!  My placenta is fairly close to my cervix, which can cause problems during labour, but they say it usually moves.  So back for ultrasound #6 at 28 weeks to check on it
  •  Still feeling good besides the reflux
  • Although I'm over the half way mark, I officially feel like I'm halfway now.  You don't actually know you're pregnant for the first 4 weeks, so that's the easy part.  So I have known that I am pregnant for 18 weeks and I have 18 weeks left.  
  •  People still don’t think I look pregnant, I still think I look huge
  • People might think I'm not pregnant because unfortunately I'm not really all bump like I had hoped.  I don't think my butt or legs are much bigger, but I've definitely grown a bit sideways as well as growing out.
  •  Baby is moving frequently now
  •  I’m up 15 pounds…I’m thinking that sticking to 25 pounds isn’t going to happen for me
  •  The nursery is partially set up.  The room is teeny tiny so it was a bit stressful.  We don’t have the glider yet so I’m just hoping that everything fits when we get that (if we get it as Babies R Us doesn’t have it in stock)


Thursday, 23 October 2014

Bump Date: 21 Weeks

On Friday I will actually be 22 weeks, but due to some extenuating circumstances (aka internet issues) this one is a bit late!

What Fruit are you?  This week baby is the length of a banana. 
Next appointment:  Midwife appointment this Thursday.
Exercise: Maintaining my regular level of working out and doing the usual, a mixture of weights, cardio and prenatal yoga.
Stretch marks: Nothing that I’ve found.
Swelling: None.
Maternity clothes:  Still all maternity pants (unless I’m at home in yoga pants), some maternity shirts.  
Sleep:  Blech.  That’s the sound I make when I realize that I’m not getting a good nights sleep anymore.  Between the peeing, the vivid dreams and the just waking up throughout the night I don’t feel well rested in the morning.  And I’m not even uncomfortable yet!  There is a lot of discomfort when I lie flat though from the acid reflux, so if it’s bothering me I have to sleep propped up and that helps.
Food cravings:  Still nothing specific. 
Symptoms:  Acid reflux…. It’s getting worse and another 19 weeks of it does not sound fun!  And why are stairs so difficult for us pregnant folk?  I’m in decent shape, I work out, but give me a flight of stairs and I feel like I ran a marathon.
Movement:  Still just little movements, usually down really low.  A couple of times I have thought I could feel it from outside, but baby never stays moving long enough for me to figure it out.
What I miss:  People not thinking it’s ok to basically call me fat.  Hint to the non-preggos, telling a pregnant girl that she’s not even showing and it just looks like she’s been eating pizza is not a compliment! (Yes I actually heard that this week, along with multiple other people telling me that I’m not showing at all.  I remember that my stomach used to be fairly flat, but apparently they don’t.) I would rather look pregnant and show than just be fat. 
What I'm loving:  That we are more than half way.  And yet that’s also scary.
What I'm looking forward to:  Setting up the nursery.  Hearing from the midwife about the anatomy scan, hopefully everything is good, but I’m getting kind of anxious about it.
Best moment this week:  Baby co-operating at the ultrasound.  I was afraid that it would still be in the exact same position as last week and I would need to go back again!  But I’m pretty sure they got all the pictures they wanted this week.


Wednesday, 22 October 2014


I have a lot of emotions going through my head right now.  Today was a frightening and devastating day for Canada.  What we know as a peaceful and safe country, all of a sudden became a pretty scary place.

In case you don't know, today a gunman walked up to our National War Memorial in Ottawa and shot a soldier point blank.  He killed a young, 24 year old man, left a small child without a father, and left a country in fear.  And I guess that's what he wanted, and I hate that he succeeded.  
A gunman also entered our parliament buildings and shot a security guard, walked through the halls right past where our members of parliament were meeting before he was shot and killed.

The scary thing is how little we know about the situation.  We don't know if it was the same gunman, they don't know if there were 2 or 3 of them and how many may still be out there.  We don't know why they did this, if they were working as individuals or as part of a larger group.  

Things like this just don't happen in Canada.  People with guns don't walk up to our most treasured Canadian monuments and kill people.  When watching TV today and seeing all the cops walking around Ottawa with rifles and driving these big SWOT vehicles, I was surprised that they actually even had access to those things.  (I know I shouldn't be surprised by this, but how often do they really need to use those.)  We have Mounties, not FBI and CIA.  We thought that things like this didn't happen in Canada, and unfortunately we were wrong.

It scares me that a Canadian citizen would kill a soldier at our war memorial.  I can't understand how somebody can hate this country so much to disrespect it in such a way. 

So today my thoughts are with the soldier's family, my family members who live in Ottawa, and Canada as a whole as we try to make sense of why this happened.  


Friday, 17 October 2014

Why We Are Using a Midwife

One of the first things that people have said to me when I said I was using a midwife is "Why would you put yourself and your baby at risk like that?"  First of all, keep those thoughts to yourself.  It's none of your business how I choose to deliver my baby!  Secondly, I don't see this as an increased risk. 

Now the people who have said this to me thought I was going to have a home birth, which I'm not.  I will be delivering in the hospital, with my midwife.  If anything is to go wrong, if I need drugs or a c-section, I can switch to a doctor at any point.  I do feel more comfortable with this, especially since our house is 15 minutes from the hospital in good weather and this baby will be born in the middle of winter!

But tons of people have their babies at home and they turn out just fine!  Birth is a natural process, women have been doing it for thousands of years without the help of a hospital.  So it's really not anybody else's place to tell you where you should be having your baby!

So now that I've gotten that out of the way, why did I choose a midwife?

In our town, you see your family doctor for the first half of your pregnancy and then you are turned over to the baby doctors group.  This group is made up of at least 5 local doctors.  They try to get you to see as many of them as possible, but on the day that you go into labour, you will get whichever one is on call.  Plus, I'm pretty sure if there's an on call switch in the middle of labour, your doctor will change.  (Don't quote me on that.)  With a midwife, I have 2 midwives, I will build a relationship with both of them prior to delivery and one of them will be there for my entire labour and delivery.

I'm a pretty quiet person.  I know that I don't want a c-section if at all possible.  If it's what is safest for me and baby that's fine, but I don't want to be pressured into it because it would speed along the process.  I also don't want to be pressured into an epidural.  So I just feel more comfortable with a midwife who I know I will be building a relationship and a comfort level with, who will know me, and my "plans" for birth ahead of time.

I know that this might not go to plan.  I might need a c-section.  But I want to at least try to do things my way.  I know that the doctor's group is full of incredibly talented doctors, but giving birth is a super personal process and everybody has their own ideas of what is important to them and how they want it to go.

I also have found my midwife to be very thorough.  Instead of waiting for me to ask questions, she will bring up the things that I should know for that stage of pregnancy.  Midwives are educated in this.  All they do is babies, and that's why I completely trust them with mine.